a more just, verdant and peaceful world

it’s pledge season.  my npr shows are peppered with appeals for donations, my workplace has whole book of worthy causes, and both my inbox and mailbox overfloweth with reminders of the poor and  hungry among us.

in past years, i’ve greeted this influx with a mixture of guilt and stress,  muttering “yeah, yeah…i’ll get to it…” as i changed the channel or added the envelope to the black hole of Things To Look At Later on my desk.  but for some reason, now I find myself looking for opportunities to give.

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of barn doors and horses, and memorials and things…

so this past saturday was the memorial service, and despite a burgeoning sore throat and ever-increasing chest congestion, we headed off to south carolina to pay our respects.

i came away with a few impressions*, some of which i will try very hard to sublimate after this post.

*may be kinda graphic

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pound foolish

This was a hard week for me.  Normally, eating out isn’t stressful — I’ve got my well-worn restaurant points bible, and the internet is a wealth of information, so I can generally feel pretty confident about what’s going in my body.

But of course, the asterisk on the end of that sentence refers to some problematic fine print: “unless it’s home-cooked (by someone else).”  No ingredient lists there, and you can’t really interrogate your host about the finer points of his cookery during a party.  You’re left with a wing, a prayer, and a hope that the salad dressing on the buffet isn’t hiding some nefarious secret.

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Closed comments, my muscular buttocks

http://krishyana.wordpress.com/2008/09/01/sunday-is-for-scrambled-eggs/

Don’t know why I can’t reply to Mel’s recent posts on HER blog, but pfft…you can’t deny me comments!  So…

YAY 13 POUNDS!!!!! That’s a lot — and don’t you say otherwise!  Your loss is showing all over you, not just on the scale, and don’t forget the old cliche about muscle.  All that running you’re doing is going to be affecting your numbers. :-)   Your pics from LegacyCon look hawt, and your pants are falling off you (two unrelated things, hehe).  And your seamstress can’t even get your bridesmaid dress small enough!  Need we say more??

This is definitely a day for fleecy pants, hot coffee, and doggie snuggles.  With any luck, now that I’ve got this written, I can sneak out of work and make it a day for Spore too.

huggles!

that’s all right, cus my body’s in motion

There’s certainly dancing of some sort going on this week.  DOWN THIRTY POUNDS, BABY.  THIR. TY.  POUNDS.  That’s three gallons of milk plus a sack of potatoes (so says the handy-dandy WW weight-tracker).  That’s two dress sizes (give or take).  That’s not being self-conscious about my enormous ass in my hip-hugging workout pants.  That’s having to buy a new bathing suit before this weekend, cus my old one might very well stay in the pool when I get out. O.o

And speaking of working out, I’m gonna go ahead and label myself as certifiable here.  I forgot how much I enjoy working out in the morning.  I mean, once you get past the initial alarm-going-off-way-too-early, lie-in-bed-and-yell-at-yourself-until-you-get-vertical stage, it’s not near as bad as you expect.  It wakes me up, makes me feel productive as I start my day, and gives me an extra 4-point buffer for my food intake. And it seems to be paying off.

I’m in motion in other ways too, some of which are going to truncate this post until a less errandy time.  I’ve got almost all of the mats for the LegacyCon Roffle prizes, but I’ve gotta swing by Joann’s and get stuff to make an EPIC SWAG BAG, and find something that a person bent on WORLD DOMINATION would use to store their stuff.  Not to mention actually MAKING and DECORATING all these things…

It’s gonna be cool, though.  We’ve got 4 prize packs: the Guild Bank, Biscuits!, World Domination, and Epix.  There’s toys, munchies, gift cards, apparel…all kinds of awesome.  There’s even an appearance by everyone’s favorite Bear.  :-D

And now, I’m off to head out into the rain for the aforementioned errand run, so I have time to go home and lie down before dinner tonight.

Cheerio!

for Deb


every star is a setting sun

On August 6, my grandmother passed away.  She went quietly, in her sleep, and thanks to increased morphine, without pain.

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My inspiration writes comics

There are things so perfectly, so exquisitely, written that they trigger a deep yearning to ever be able to meet or exceed such a standard.  I give you Tycho’s account of something that happened when Penny Arcade went to the San Diego Comic Con.

I returned to the Westgate Bar, a place I have tried to describe before, where a woman was playing Those Were The Days. She was playing it on the piano, but in my memory the woman and the piano constitute one entity.  To give you an idea of this song’s character, let me include a verse here.

Those were the days, my friend
We thought they’d never end
We’d sing and dance forever and a day
We’d live the life we’d choose
We’d fight and never lose
For we were young and sure to have our way

When I said that I had returned to the bar, let me be absolutely clear: I was returning from the restroom. This tune, at that moment, seemed to give the act a kind of epic cast.

A man near the door threw his arm wide at the crescendo, granting me entrance with a grand sweep. It was Lieutenant Commander Riker. Sitting to his immediate right sat Avery Brooks, who played Captain Sisko, nodding me in. After this, linear time was completely obliterated.

My consciousness bobbed like a bottle in black water, so that the rest of the evening exists only as discrete moments. In the first memory, Jonathan Frakes is singing a duet with the woman behind the piano. In the next coherent droplet, I am in another part of the room. Avery Brooks is now behind the piano, finding chords in it that I have never heard, and when he asks what he should sing next the woman pauses, and then says “Summertime.”

I thought, “Oh shit,” but I must have thought it with my mouth, because I said it aloud.  He doesn’t need the whole song, though. He only needs one line of it:

There is nothing can harm you.

He takes this line and turns it into a kind of meditation.  Trying to absorb every band of data this man is putting out is sheer agony. My mouth just hangs open, all parched basset, and I cover the hole with my palm to hide my uvula. He is cracking open the universe, he is destroying me.  I don’t know how you can hear music like this and live.

you know, it’s funny…

…how much fear of rejection and ridicule is involved in trying on a smaller size.  It feels remarkably like walking up to the cool kids’ table in the lunchroom.

…how stress can be cumulative, and not even particularly noticeable until later.  everyone talks about the snowflake that triggers the avalanche, but does the avalanche realize that it was that particular particle causing all the trouble before everything is sliding willy-nilly downhill?

…how the pop wisdom regarding stress characterizes it as negative — an overbearing boss, a tense social situation — but the psychologists have a point when they point out that it can arise from positive experiences too.  it’s funny to think that something you actually enjoyed could have just added another layer of powder to your teetering snowpack.  maybe it’s exacerbated by having the good and the bad causes all jumbled up together.

…how much serenity can shine in the face of pain and death.  my grandmother is not a sentimental person, and she’s not having italian matriarch-style deathbed scenes with anybody.  but she said to my mother that after she’s gone, mama should sit in the swing at her fuquay house, and they will have conversations there.

In summary, it was a hell of a week

As if the last post weren’t downer enough, there was yet another blow in the McCollum household last week.

Rest in peace, my sweet Rascal-boy.  I won’t go into cliches about your long journey being over, but simply say that I’m glad you were able to go on your terms, in the place you spent your life.  I’m glad that you went in your sleep, and that despite all those physical limitations that hampered your later years, there was no pain and no suffering.  You got to feel the mountain grass soft under your belly and listen to the breeze, and you got to be with your family.

I will miss you.

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