…how much fear of rejection and ridicule is involved in trying on a smaller size. It feels remarkably like walking up to the cool kids’ table in the lunchroom.
…how stress can be cumulative, and not even particularly noticeable until later. everyone talks about the snowflake that triggers the avalanche, but does the avalanche realize that it was that particular particle causing all the trouble before everything is sliding willy-nilly downhill?
…how the pop wisdom regarding stress characterizes it as negative — an overbearing boss, a tense social situation — but the psychologists have a point when they point out that it can arise from positive experiences too. it’s funny to think that something you actually enjoyed could have just added another layer of powder to your teetering snowpack. maybe it’s exacerbated by having the good and the bad causes all jumbled up together.
…how much serenity can shine in the face of pain and death. my grandmother is not a sentimental person, and she’s not having italian matriarch-style deathbed scenes with anybody. but she said to my mother that after she’s gone, mama should sit in the swing at her fuquay house, and they will have conversations there.